Wondering
why your man or woman still cheats even when you have given him or her
almost everything to make them happy? Consider these points.
Why do people cheat? Well, many have asked that question especially
when they believe they have all that it takes to keep their man or
woman satisfied, yet they go out there to cheat. Here are 4 simple
reasons why married people cheat.
They no longer get what they expected from the marriage
Expectations are a good thing-they make you a visionary but they
are also a bad thing because they make you assume a lot of things you
should not. From both sides, there is an idea of what and how something
should work. Marriage means, I get more sex. Marriage means he or she
will pay attention more. Marriage means I will have more of this and
that until life happens; in the name of career and responsibilities.
Someone is now married to work as long as they have given you the number
of kids you wanted, they can now concentrate on other things.
One person ends up feeling neglected and in the end, cheating
happens. It is only so long before someone gets tired of begging for
something when they are being offered by someone else.
Birds of a feather flock together
There is a reason married people try to control the type of friends
that are around their spouse. Those habits have a way of influencing
the other. If you hung out with your ‘buddies’ that have mistresses or
boyfriends on the side; you have a lot of out of town trips. What will
happen when you notice that you are always the only one who is alone
while they have someone? You will eventually fall into the same
habit-you will get one yourself because you will find a way to justify
why you need one just like everybody else.
You are not getting that attention from your own spouse
I am not saying people are children but most marriages work like
this; you marry someone and you eventually ignore them. Your spouse has
to be your boyfriend or girlfriend because they are still a man or a
woman. Don’t let someone else come in and help you do what you should
have been doing. Neglecting a spouse will lead to them finding another
way to deal with that empty space and we know these days, the married
the person, the more attractive they are to someone.
The change
As small minded as it may sound; your appearance does matter. They
married you for the way you presented yourself, took care of yourself,
worked out, ate well and smelt nice. A few years of marriage and people
let go of themselves. Bad as it may sound, they will not want to be seen
with you, if it is extreme. So they look for the trophy. You stay at
home; the trophy goes to company events and trips so that someone is not
ashamed
